Sexual Game Guide Pt. 3 - The P.F.B

The P.F.B. is a new concept in the Zen world. Over the course of a conversation the other night I have assembled the basics of what it takes to successfully have a P.F.B or Primary Fuck Buddy. I hope my explanation helps to illuminate and feel free to comment, as always.

The major problem when dealing with the concept of "fuck buddy" is the level of complication that it involves. At first, the situation may seem to have more positives than negatives. However, due to what can only be described as the "human condition", things tend to go awry. Jealousy when one of the buddies finds a traditional relationship, the "I'm not good enough" complex, overall complications.

While the P.F.B scenario does not SOLVE all of these problems, it does attempt to alleviate them in the most efficient way possible. That is, open communication and lots and lots of honesty. Let's talk about some of the thought process that goes into the P.F.B.

1. Fuck buddies are an interesting concept anyway. The sex MUST be good. If it wasn't, wouldn't you just find another buddy? It's not like you have a relationship right? So then, I would assume that you and your buddy are having good if not great sex.

2. The complications between buddies always seem to arise when people decide to NOT be buddies any more. The decision is usually one sided. The decision has to do with people wanting a monogamous relationship with someone else. It's always handled wrong and the taste it leaves in the mouth is not a desirable one.
3. These things being said, here is how the P.F.B works well -
a. Open communication serves to address jealousy and other problems immediately without letting them fester.
b. Since we've established that the sex must be good with your fuck buddy, let's take it one step further with Rule #1 for P.F.B. that says: If both parties in the P.F.B relationship are single, then all sexual actions are allowed between both parties. If, for any reason, an A.F.B (Auxiliary Fuck Buddy) is in the picture at the time of mutual singularity, the P.F.B takes precedence over the A.F.B in all cases of sexual encounters and meetings.
Thus, it is during the time that one of the P.F.Bs is in a monogamous relationship that the other is allowed to have A.F.Bs.
c. There is really only one more rule that needs to be addressed in the relationship as an overview. Rule #2: Any time that either party in the P.F.B relationship decides to engage in a monogamous relationship with someone, they must inform the other P.F.B BEFORE beginninig the monogamy. This eliminates feelings of inadequacy and maintains the communication necessary for the P.F.B relationship to stay healthy during it's non-sexual period.

The idea, overall, is to remain friends. Fuck buddies are usually short term things. We could compare them to a disposable razor. Easy, no hassle, and thrown away at the end of use. However, this causes unnecessary waste of something that could possibly have more worth. So then, let's continue the analogy and say that the P.F.B relationship is more like a straight razor. It can be sharpened over and over to keep the shave as close and smooth as possible. It can be re-used and always cleaned. It will always have it's worth, even if it is no longer utilized as it once was. Though, we must remember, that the P.F.B, much like the straight razor, can be a wonderful thing, and if mis-treated...could very easily slit your throat.