Honest

I've always hoped that honesty could transcend those typical ideals and also include sex. I know few people who are honest about their sex lives with their sexual partners. Those I do know in that situation say that they have both benefitted from the ability to be honest.

Let's face it, being honest in bed isn't something women are trained to do. They're trained to lie and say it was "great" and fake the orgasms just to appease the guys of the world. Don't want to bruise any egos. But I see no harm and nothing but good in some good ol' honesty in the sack. If it works in everyday life (it does, though sometimes it's the bumpier road) then why not work for sex.

I've had the best sexual relationships with women who were willing to say "no no, do this" or "yes, but not so hard". That, to me, is better than a manual. That's verbal step by step instructions towards her ultimate pleasure. Excellent. But it takes being comfortable with someone, often, to get there in a sexual relationship. More than that, it takes getting comfortable with yourself.

I'm not perfect, not super fit or perfectly thin. But I am comfortable with myself in a sexual situation. I'm not shy about my body, I know it's not perfect, but I also know it works. A woman in that same category makes for amazing experiences. I know there are women out there that are comfortable with their bodies and their beauty, I just hope, someday, there will be more.

Be comfortable and honest. Let us know what we're doing, how we're doing. If it was bad (and the relationship extends past just the sex) then tell us we weren't great and help us to make it better. Everyone is different, and just because someone has experience, doesn't make them a master in the sack with EVERY woman (we could only wish for such luck.) And those men that are even worth the time to invest in will see your suggestions as positive things. Won't take a blow to the ego and double over in prideful pain. They'll just try harder, try different and work on it until they get it right.

Just a random thought from a late night, slighly-unsober guy who thinks about fucking when he's driving home, driving to work, driving to the gas station, in bed, taking a shower...etc... And so the post, and the honesty and the hopes that somewhere a girl is reading this and agreeing.